Differencies Between Love and Infatuation

                               Love Versus Infatuation

Love is all you need to see the person who truly loves you. Infatuation is not fake love, it is no love.

When I Speaks about infatuation here, I am referring to the kind of love usually portrays in the entertainment industries and by many today, that is, 'love is sex and sex is love'.

This include what is usually portrayed if firms-'living in big apartment with cars and all comfort of life' 'Money and wealth, if no such things love flies through the window and escape'.

Funny isn't it?

Like the real and a virtual image of a mirror, which can be hard to differentiate, the view of love and sex portrays in entertainment industry can be deceptive and have made it hard for people to know the right moral standard of love and sex in real life.

And even makes it hard for people to accept the reality of life or without expecting to leave the kind of comfort they watch in firms. 

Do you agree?

Therefore, this is actually a contrast between the proper view of love and sex and love as portrays in entertainment world and bellow are few helpful contrasts that can help one differentiate love from infatuation.

1. Love: 

Romantic feelings does not start instantaneously but slowly, taken sometimes, days, months or even years. Such are feelings that will last because it was carefully cultivated.

It is as a result of fondness due to familiarity.

 Understand this. It is not that one will not feel emotional at a glance of a woman or man, off course it is natural.

I am saying that one who really will love you will not start a romance with you at a first glance, that is lust and not love.

Infatuation: 

Romantic feelings start instantaneously, perhaps at the moment. Such feelings doesn't last at the long run.

There is no time for fondness due to familiarity.

2. Love: 

Attraction not based on physical look only but on the total internal reflections-respectful, mannered, spiritual etc.
Am not saying that beauty and sexy an the rest should not be among the quality you should need in a man or woman. In fact, I need them too.

Am saying that in true love, that is not what makes a person truly lovely and lovable

Infatuation: 

Attractions based purely on physical looks, appearance-figure, sexy, beauty, funny etc. 

In fact, each of us will know when we are simply admiring a person’s beauty, if that beauty alone is to drive one into a relationship that is lust not love. 
What happens when the beauty is gone?

3. Love: 

Effect on a person. Makes one a better person. Reasonable and realistic. 

One who will really love you is one who draws a picture of you and his/her future, for just both of you and is serious about it.

One who brings the best out of you. 
Now think of who have had such impart on you, that is one who truly loves you.

Infatuation: 

Effects on a person. Makes one unreasonable, and about future outcomes, unrealistic. Makes one a puppet-controlled by emotions of what the eyes can see now.

What if such things eyes can see now should fail tomorrow?

4. Love.

Demonstrates and shows all the four (4) aspects of the quality of love in composite. I.e Storge, Agape, eros and philos.



The best love is the love developed from fondness due to familiarity.

That is why if you get married to your best friend you not only have a mate but a person who will be your best friend.

One who really understands you and will show you all the 4 types of love.

when you get married to your best friend, you don't just have
a dear mate but also your best friend

 Infatuation: 


Focus mainly on one aspect of love, Eros (romantic love) with no much consideration to the rest aspects.

The worst thing is any is the love that focuses on Eros. In such love, you are a stranger. You have a mate who will remain a stranger to you for the rest of life. 

5. Love: 

It is not blind

It sees and it’s realistic. I.e. seeing the good as well as the week point/points, nevertheless, accepting him/her anyway.

At this juncture, I want to say that love cannot be watered down. It can not be persuaded. It cannot be hindered. It cannot be stop, because it sees.


Infatuation: 

Blind as it were, and unrealistic, I.e. recognizing the strength but ignoring the week point/points, assuming perfection in its initial stage.