How To Be In Love: Illustrated

  "Paint my love, you should paint my love. It is the picture of a thousand sunset, it's the freedom of a thousand doves, baby you should paint my love" sang Michael Lean To Rock.

Hmmm..

That is breath taking isn't it?

Off course, this is just one among the thousands if not millions of love songs that just seeing the lyrics could get you thinking, and emotions running wide even by a person who naturally is unloving, 
isn't it?

I do not believe that one word, phrase or clause is enough to defined real love.

Therefore, I rather use a real life illustration to help you learn what it means to be in love.

 

 

A Story Of What Being in Love Is

 His name is John, and People refers him as ugly in face and pocket. I guess you don't need a prophet to know what that really means, right?

At the same time, there was this girl, her name is Joy. She is an epitome of beauty. So beautiful, with a desirable shape. In fact, she is considered as priceless by many men.



Unfortunately, the young man was showing interest in this young lady.

Imagine!

How can a beautiful girl like that ever want to have anything to do with an ugly and poor kind of guy?

You are right...

That was exactly how she thought.

But the guy really wished they could be if nothing but friends.

However, always against his wish, is the girl's fierce resistance at the thought, not even wanting to be identified with him at all.

What is wrong? She don't like him? Quite sure.

Could you believe that every effort proved abortive. Everything that was said and done to make Joy pick interest failed.

Then he gave up and that was is it.

What you may not have known is that showing 'interest in a person' is reciprocal' and the resulted reciprocate may sometimes become involuntary.

What am trying to say by all this big grammars is this:

If you show genuine interest in some one, either of the opposite sex or same sex, even if that person at the mean time seems to have no interest on you, don't dare worry.

Interest is reciprocal. He/she will one day respond to your interest shown either negatively or positively, even if you never know.

Back to the main story.

Something changed the girl's attitude toward the young man.




As she fiercely oppose this young man's interest in her, and as she wonders what give the guy the courage to show such interest, something was happening.

The more she wonders and dwells on "what gave him the courage, the less she realizes she have unknowingly been dwelling on the thought about the young man.


Then something she never imagined begin to happen.

She began noting some desirable qualities that this young man posses that none of those she deemed handsome or wealthy has.

Remember, she was before thinking on 'how-dare-this-guy-want-to-date-me', kind of negative and egotistic.

But Noting his personalities, made her even more curious and to peered more even more deeper. 

The more deeper, the more she notices other desirable personalities of this young man she loves. Then she hold on to it.

"the best way to truly love a person is to first love the characters, if you can't find yourself loving much of his/her characters, neither will you love him/her"

As time passes, those desirable qualities of his began to transcend her view of him. The disgust she once felt was melting off like a candle.

 Now she can't stop thinking about him. No. Not the former 'how-dare-him' kind of feelings. That have  since automatically been replaced with 'he-seems-to-be-nice' kind of consideration thought.

Little by little, she began to feel close not to the young man,  not to his look or status in life but to his qualities.

Without the young ma's knowledge, she has on her own developed feelings for him.

As she got immersed in this feelings, she realized she truly have been rejecting a person who's soul mate she is.

I do not know how long this feelings lasted within her. But all I do know is that one of their next encounter after developing this liking was very different.

She was eager to let this young man know that she has for long time fallen in love with him?
No. Being in love with him.

She realized that this young man has been in love with her all this while too.

And despite appearance, look, and social status, the result was a three fold cord of union and they are happily married and enduring in their union till date.

Well, till date I said.

What you don't know is that their is a path love follows to creep into the human heart. It is through an automatic natural involuntary principle.

Yes, through a natural principle I said.

Do you know you can solve all problems in your relationship and family through this same automatic principle?

All you need is to become conscious of it and voluntarily apply it, its already within you.

That principle is called autosuggestion or self repetition.

I will explain how this works in a separate note